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Icicles Hung Neatly on the Tree

Christmas Memory: Icicles Hung Neatly on the Tree

Rick was not quite eight when he left South Korea to join his adoptive family in the middle of the United States. Rick met this challenge with the in-your-face bravado and determination that had enabled him to survive thus far. He was visibly angry when he got off the plane because his coat zipper was stuck and he was not able to present himself as “perfect” for his new family. He reluctantly accepted his new Dad’s help to fix it and bravely took his new Mom’s hand as the family left the airport. It was November 16th.

The adoption agency recommended that the newly adopted child be kept at home for at least six weeks so they could adjust to the immediate family members and routines before adding school regulations and classmates. Rick demanded to go to school with his brother and sisters. The primary teacher in the small country school was willing to let him join his sisters and he started to school after Thanksgiving -- just in time for Christmas program preparation.

His vocabulary of six English words expanded rapidly. Each day was a wonderful adventure of singing and art projects and putting up decorations at school. On the Saturday that we went to the nearby Christmas tree farm, cut a tree and brought it into the house, Rick nearly burst with excitement. He lustily sang O Christmas Tree (with at least two extra syllables in “Christmas”). He eagerly explored the composition of the tree, walked around it measuring it’s space in front of the window and chattered gaily in Korean.

Traditionally, Dad put the lights on. We all added decorations then we all started carefully placing icicles one by one on the lower branches and slowly moving up the tree. The kids -- and Mom -- would soon tire and wander off leaving Dad to watch the football game while placing icicles neatly on the tree.

While Rick might have understood the words, there was no way he could grasp the concept of icicles neatly on the tree. While Dad was sitting on the floor adding icicles one by one, Rick pulled a stool up to the other side of the tree so he could come closer to the top and began gleefully throwing handfuls of icicles on the tree. There have been more than 30 trees since then and with each one we remember Rick’s first Christmas and the beautiful tree with great clumps of icicles reflected in his shining eyes. And, sometime along the way, we quit using icicles on our trees.

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